DC Wedding Planning - Write Your Vows For A Unique Wedding
Every couple and every wedding are unique, which is one of the reasons we love what we do. Many of the couples that we celebrate within the Washington DC and Northern VA area are always open to ideas to make their celebration a bit more personal and different. Writing your own wedding vows for your Washington DC wedding is one way for you to do just that.
If you are undecided about whether to write your own vows, read on to learn the reasons why you should.
If you are thinking it is a great idea but not sure if you can do it, read on to learn how to get an easy to use method to make writing your personalized wedding vows both easy and fun.
You know that your relationship with your partner is one-of-a-kind, why shouldn’t your vows be too?
When you say your vows to one another, you aren’t simply repeating or reading words on paper, you are making a lifelong promise to your partner. Who you’ve chosen to spend your life with was a decision no one else could make for you. Doesn’t it make sense that it would be you who decides what promises you wish to make to him or her?
Writing your own wedding vows is a way to make those promises unique and more personal to both you and your mate. In my view, the most honest and true vows are inspired by your love for the person you have chosen to marry.
Wedding planning can consume a lot of your time. It is easy for what is most important to be lost in the seemingly infinite number of decisions to make from the catering menu to the floral arrangements.
The process of writing your own wedding vows allows you precious moments to reflect on your journey and remember why you are making this commitment. Using our process can provide a welcome break from the more stressful aspects of your planning and provide a bit of grounding and increased connection with your partner.
Don’t overlook your guests when you are deciding whether or not to write your own vows for your Washington DC Wedding!
Those who attend your ceremony are those with whom you share the closest connection. Many have been with you throughout and this ceremony is one more step on the journey they have traveled with you.
On this leg of the journey, you are adding another “traveler” that they may not have been introduced to before or perhaps have only received a cursory introduction.
Your loved ones are gathering on your big day to see two people who have chosen to love each other forever. They want to hear your love story and how this day came to be. They have a vested interest in your happiness. If they didn’t, they wouldn’t have accepted the invitation.
Your guests will appreciate hearing your words far more than those they have heard repeated over and over again. The vows you write will use modern language and will be in your own voice rather than phrases written in the 16th century such as “In sickness and in health, For better or for worse.”
Your guests will pay attention to. When your guests realize that you are not merely repeating the same vows, they have heard many times before, they will focus more intently.
You can increase your connection. To write heartfelt vows, you've got to open up and express your feelings, not always an easy thing for some guys to do. This exercise is a great opportunity to talk, just the two of you, and hear what each other has to say. It will create a great memory of your engagement.
Why do couples choose not to write their own wedding vows?
The reason most couples give is that they are concerned that their writing skills may not live up to the moment.
The best vows are not literary masterpieces. They are the expression of the heart. The language of love is universal. If your vows are authentic and speak from the heart, they will be perfect because those observing, and most of all your spouse, will know that they are yours.
Clergy or feeling guilty about breaking tradition is another reason some couples give for not writing their own vows.
If this is you, speak to your officiant about writing your own vows and get their feeling on the matter before making the final decision. It is perfectly acceptable to include your vows and traditional vows at your wedding ceremony. It is not an either-or situation.
Two other reasons couples give for not writing the vows for their Washington DC Wedding are:
1. I don’t know how or where to start.
2. I don’t know what to say.
For those couples, I have great news!
Writing your wedding vows doesn’t have to be difficult, time-consuming, or frustrating. I have put together a comprehensive how-to guide and worksheet that will guide you thru the entire process. Your only difficulty will be with what to leave in and what to leave out.
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